I am UKCP registered and COSRT (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists) Accredited Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapist. I abide by COSRT Code of Ethics and Practice (see COSRT web site). I see individuals and couples who are experiencing difficulties in their personal and sexual relationships.
Many people at different life stages may experience sexual problems and feel very alone with the difficulty. You may be concerned that your difficulty might be related to a physical condition, in which case you could discuss this with your doctor. Most sexual concerns, however, have a psychological component and if you feel it would be helpful to talk these through, you will be treated with respect. Common sexual problems for women include loss of sexual interest and arousal difficulties, orgasmic difficulties and pain during sexual intercourse. Common sexual problems for men include loss of sexual desire, erectile difficulties and problems with premature (early) ejaculation or delayed ejaculation.
I qualified as a Registered Nurse in Mental Health in 1984 and I maintain my registration with the Nursing and Midwifery Council (NMC). In 2002 I completed a Master’s Degree in Psychosexual Therapy at the University of Central Lancashire. The following year I completed a Post Graduate qualification in Forensic Sexology. I have a Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy, a Post Graduate Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and I have completed training in EMDR. I am an Accredited Member of BABCP (British Association for Behavioural & Cognitive Psychotherapies).
By far the most common thing people say when they come for sex therapy is that they ‘just want to be normal’. There is an idea that everybody else is having ‘normal and great sex’ and there is something wrong with us if we are not. In psychosexual therapy sessions the focus is generally on sexual or relationship issues but these may be linked with what is going on in the rest of your life, such as family or work stresses, health issues and energy levels. Working together, the aim will be to achieve improvement in the area of difficulty that brings you to psychosexual therapy.